SERIOUS PORNOGRAPHY PROBLEMS DON’T JUST GO AWAY
When pornography use becomes a habit, compulsive, or an addiction–things can spiral out of control quickly. You can’t “just stop” any time you want anymore. It becomes more than just a problem. It can hurt every area of your life.
As therapists, we’ve seen so many people who thought they could stop when they wanted–and couldn’t.
The real issue is that once pornography use becomes a compulsion, it’s really about using porn to cope with emotional pain. As long as you haven’t learned to healthily deal with pain, pornography will be your go-to method of coping.
Good intentions aren’t enough to find real change.
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Our office staff can answer your questions and help you take the first step toward healing.
Seeking help is the first step for change.
One thing is clear: people don’t change on their own.
Think about it. You’ve tried everything you can think of to fix the problem. You’re coming to realize that your own efforts won’t solve things.
Early in counseling, we need to help you figure out who you’ll turn to, daily, for support in your recovery.
Seeking support will help you find surprising strength–strength you didn’t know you had. We need to leverage that strength for your healing.
The other part about seeking help that matters a lot is accountability.
Being accountable to another person about your recovery efforts from your pornography problem is as important as anything else you do. When you know you’re going to be honest with someone else, you make different decisions.
Pornography is both a problem and a symptom.
Yes, you want to quit looking at porn. You’ll see some immediate improvement in many areas of your life, including self-esteem, your relationships, and productivity.
But pornography use isn’t just a problem. It’s also a symptom. What do we mean by this?
People turn to pornography when they can’t cope with the pain of life.
There are so many emotionally painful experiences in life: sadness, disappointment, loneliness, boredom, resentment, anger, and frustration, to name a few.
Most people who struggle with pornography learned in their younger days that porn could give them a quick escape from pain. They could use it to forget their troubles for a bit. As they grew older, they never learned to cope in healthy ways, so the pornography continued to be something they compulsively turned to in order to avoid painful feelings.
In this way, pornography is a symptom of underlying issues. Whether you struggle with depression, anxiety, anger, conflict avoidance, or something else, until you address those issues, the pornography will probably stay with you.
LEARNING HEALTHY COPING SKILLS WILL GET YOU ON THE ROAD TO HEALING
You’ve tried to solve this on your own. You’ve come to realize it’s not working. It’s not about working harder or having more willpower. It’s about learning what actually works.
There’s no need to waste your time guessing anymore.
We’ve been treating pornography problems for years and we know what works.
From the first meeting with one of our therapists, you’ll notice the difference. You’ll see that we get right to work and start focusing on practical, daily decisions you will make that really facilitate change.
We will work on the problem and the symptom at the same time. We want you to experience lasting change, not just a short-term fix.